I'm looking for the best combination of long term compatibility and companionship and adventure, open-mindedness and fun/flexibility in a committed, thought not necessarily monogamous relationship. I realize that this is primarily a website for hooking up, finding fwbs, sex parties and similar..and all of that definitely has its place. I'm going to put myself out there and be a bit different by letting you know up front that Ive tried some things on my own, and now want to find a compatible long term relationship in which we can try and explore lots of things, and make kink a regular part of our private life in a way that works for us. I do not expect or want anyone to make any sort of commitments to me right away, and I will not be doing this either. I do want to find a compatible per who is open to the possibility of the intimacy and commitment of a long term relationship, and willing to see if that will work out with me, and vice versa. I have family and work, as well as furthering my education to one day start my own business going on in my life, and I'm looking for someone to help add balance and more peral fulfillment to all of this. I don't have a lot of free time, and don't want to spend ice ages chatting, I would like to meet and talk in per to real people who take me, my time, and what I have to offer seriously. I will absolutely do the same for you. I don't send very peral or sexual pictures or do sexting with people until I have met them in per at least once, and we have established that we are both interested in and attracted to one another. This is for both safety and self respect reas..I don't care to send sexually explicit images of myself to strangers whom I don't know, and I have had issues in the past where people catfished me and turned out in per to be someone very different from what and whom I expected that they would be.

Mijn Ideale Persoon: I do request recent photos of your face and over all body frame in order to have a more accurate idea of who I am going to meet and potentially be involved with. I will do the same for you.

I'm pretty open and flexible about the appearance of an individual. I can find people of a wide variety of races, and a fairly wide variety of body type and age attractive. Extremely thin, and extremely heavy body types are not very attractive to me, I prefer between around 10 years younger to 5 years older than myself, though that is flexible and can vary depending on the individual.

This is an awkward topic to bring up, but a must have is someone with a reasonable amount of positive sexual experience with another person, must be able to get and sustain an erection long enough to successfully and satisfyingly get through all of the phases of arousal, sex, and climax for BOTH of us, be versatile and willing to also use hands, mouth, and toys in addition to his penis, and be long enough and have enough girth to satisfy..does not need to be huge or constantly have marathon sex, but I've sadly encountered a lot of men with ED, premature ejaculation, and exceptionally small penis issues. I have empathy for these people, they are born with what they are born with, and often cant help their ED related health issues.

That being said, I am looking for someone that is healthy enough to have fulfilling, satisfying sex on a pretty regular basis..my own sex drive is pretty high, I would love to have it every day, sometimes a few times a day, but want it at least a couple of times a week. Im looking for someone whose drive is similar and can meet that desire at least most of the time.

Some more Absolute must haves are these; Must be intelligent, kind, be able to carry on a good conversation on a wide variety of topics, Be creative,patient, have a great sense of humor with regard to most things but particularly sex, must have good to excellent communication and social skills, be flexible and understanding, easy going, mentally, emotionally and physically healthy, stable, and sane, reasonably physically fit, open to trying new things without trying to push things on other people too fast, accepts boundaries and limits without issue, is respectful, honest, neat and clean, at least somewhat organized.

I am open to possible compatibility in all racial groups. There are so many ways to be attractive, and very few in which to be truly ugly..and that has more to do with attitude than physical appearance.

Some things I really enjoy are creative and intelligent people that are good at cooking and making things, likes to be outdoors regularly, can geek out with me over books, TV shows and movies, has eclectic musical tastes, likes kids and animals, is into role-playing and fantasy, likes attending or performing in Renaissance faires, SCA, Theatre..so many other things, we can talk about that later.